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Fade to white Thursday, May, 20, 2010
by John Fischer

In a three-part series for the Los Angeles Times, Joe Mozingo, staff writer for the Times delved into the best-kept secrets of his family name. For more than a year, he traveled across the country meeting Mozingos and researching his ancestry in courthouses and libraries and online.

Most of his life, Joe Mozingo had been haunted by his name. How come his ancestry was such a mystery? Why were there no stories about great, great grandparents? Why were his relatives sure Mozingo was Italian but couldn't produce any connection to Italy or find Mozingo in any registry of common Italian surnames? Curiosity turned to compulsion and for more than a year, Joe traveled across the country meeting Mozingos and researching his ancestry in courthouses and libraries and online. The results of his research were published this week in the Los Angeles Times where Joe Mozingo works as a staff writer.

What he unearthed was a minefield of emotional responses. He was able to get as far back as a common ancestor to all living Mozingos—a black man named Edward Mozingo who lived in the time of James Madison and may very well have served him. He was an African from the Congo whose name has Bantu roots, and whose memory had been all but lost and whose color had faded to white. The article he wrote was more about how the Mozingos in his family reacted to this news.

As for his own parents, he said this, "My parents have always been fairly liberal in accepting other people's differences. But recognizing the other as an element of ourselves was harder." Indeed it would be.

I couldn't help thinking about this in relation to how Christians see sinners. It's one thing to think we are being open-minded toward sinners; it's another thing to actually see their sin as a part of us. It's one good way to avoid being judgmental. See the sin of the worst as a part of you and rejoice in your salvation.

It was discovered that one Mozingo Joe found had an ancestor who was most likely a member of the Klu Klux Klan. Imagine if he had found out about his own roots. Would he have been in for a surprise! What we hate is most often in us anyway. Might as well get used to knowing that.


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Today's date: Tuesday, September 07, 2010
Sharon Buxton Monday, May 24, 2010
Santee, CA, USA
John Bradshaw wrote a book called Family Secrets about the damage in the coverup that could otherwise be dealt with in a healthy way if exposed. He gives a lot of counsel on learning the truth and how to stop protecting parents' feelings in knowing and dealing with it.
One matter that is disturbing is your correlation to the Black race. Only a racist would keep that a secret but neither should discovering our ancestors to be Black be categorized with your other examples evolving shameful traits of character.

John Fischer Responds
Yes, I see what you mean. It is certainly a statement of perception and not fact.

Gina Monday, May 24, 2010
Springfield, VA, 22153
What a great story. Thank you!

Peggy Savage[ Thursday, May 20, 2010
John,
It seems that so many of us have similar stories that tie us together. Like your reader Kevin, I, too, had a grandfather that was buried and never discussed within the family. It seems that my grandmother found out that he had an attraction to young men. Back in the 1920s and 30s, this was a disgrace. My grandmother moved back with her parents in another city and told everyone that her husband had died. I was in my 40s before I found out the truth. The truth came in the form of a letter written by my grandfather to my father many years ago. In that letter, my grandfather tried to reestablish a connection with my father. That never happened. My mother told me that my father never responded to his father. Your devotion is so on the mark. We all have those things in our lives that require forgiveness and grace. Learning to be open enough to allow God to issue that grace through us is one of our highest callings as children of God. My father has been with our Lord for sometime now. I only wish that I could have helped him with the conflict he faced. I have often wondered how my father felt about the letter he received. That is something I will only know when I meet him in our Lord's presence someday.

Kevin Thursday, May 20, 2010
Springfield, Illinois
I can relate to what Joe discovered about his family's reaction. My mother's father was a convicted murderer, and no one talks about him or the family history. It was years before I found out the truth about my grandfather, and when I did no one wanted to admit the truth of being related to him. Even the ones that knew him and knew the truth the whole time, would not admit it or discuss it.

And her stepfather was a much worse scoundrel who caused my mother much pain and suffering. Even though what she suffered through with him caused her and our family many difficulties, no one from her family would come forward with the truth which would have enabled healing for her and all of us.

I used to feel very angry about this; until one day I realized I was just like them and had my own little bag of secrets that I wouldn't share with anyone even though they needed the information in order to move on with their lives.

Now, whenever I am angry about something someone else is or does, I stop and take a look at myself to find out how I am like them. And in every case I have been.

John Fischer Responds
Good for you. That place is not an easy one to come to. But you are much happier now, aren't you? And much more loving and accepting of others. Thanks for sharing this.

Tracey Cooper Thursday, May 20, 2010
Jacksonville, FL, USA
John,

Your Catch of the Day submissions this week on our relationships and attitude toward others (and ourselves) have been very insightful. What a difference you make in planting these seeds. Thank you for having the courage and wisdom to do so.

Tracey Cooper

John Fischer Responds
You're welcome. Thanks for letting me know!

Tim Thursday, May 20, 2010
IN
Interesting story.
"See the sin of the worst as a part of you and rejoice in your salvation."
I love that.

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